To attain peak performance, you need mental strength. But this requires discipline, effort, and desire.
To act tough and to be mentally strong are two different things.
The latter means you are willing to work hard and persevere in the face of struggles and adversities. This is a trait that doesn’t happen accidentally. It goes beyond a desire – but also a special kind of fortitude and strength to stick to your long-term passions and goals.
Mentally strong people are exceptional and goal-oriented. They want to be achievers and do more than the ordinary. In some definitive way, they know how to be productive in their personal and professional lives. And when the push comes to shove, there are certain elements and factors in individuals that drive them above the obstacle they face.
It is time to show mental strength to achieve your goals.
Here are 10 things people with mental strength do – even if it’s NOT easy.
1. You can manage your emotions.
You don’t have any reason to easily become angry or to yell, because you know that by raising your voice, you lower your standards or lose your identity. Rather, you can do well to handle situations (no matter how tense it gets) calmly. Choosing to stay calm even during stressful or harsh situations shows you possess mental strength.
2. You can handle responsibility.
Sometimes, we are bestowed with an opportunity to be responsible for ourselves and for others. Some would shy away from this because they always want to put the blame on others. But mentally strong people are NOT afraid of responsibility. They simply see it as an opportunity to show others what great qualities they possess.
Even when things fail, you can admit your errors and take responsibility for such failures. Mentally strong individuals do not have any reason to feel insecure about any privileges they are given. They would take pride in standing up to a challenge and showing others what should be done, instead of cowering in fear.
3. You can adapt to change.
Nothing in the world stays the same. Circumstances and our environment could change at any given time. But while some would see this as a reason to create an excuse and play the blame-game, mentally strong people are truly aware of the situation and they work towards adapting to such change. Most times, such change could be what you need for your personal development. Being flexible and adjusting to change is an ideal trait for the mentally strong.
4. You focus on contributing rather than on taking.
Most times, people expect that people should do for them just as they have done to others. But the reality is that life doesn’t work that way. People will disappoint you and situations could get out of hand. It takes mental strength to refrain from having certain expectations from others. Even when you go the extra mile for someone, you don’t need expect anything in return. For you, it is about adding value and contributing to the world.
5. You can deal with feedback.
You understand the importance of soliciting other people’s opinion. At the same time, you are NOT afraid to voice your opinion. You are bold to take other’s opinions or feedback, even if it’s not positive.
Yes, there will always be differing opinions out there. Some of these criticisms can be piercing, but you can rise above them. When you meet negative people, you can either put them in their place OR ignore their negative sentiments altogether. What matters is that, you are welcome to feedback because you know that it is through this that you can learn.
6. You have an innate self-belief that you will attain your goals.
You are resolute and you are not easily shaken by what other people think or say about you. You understand that in order to reach your goals, you must encounter challenges. But these challenges shouldn’t break you, but make you more creative. You know that even with such obstacles, you can eventually excel.
You would do whatever is necessary and ideal to reach your goals. Some may think you are undaunted or dogged; but you know you simply have to be willing to meet your desires with action, courage, and passion.
7. You are an out-of-the-box thinker.
You are willing to think and act unconventionally to reach your goals. You don’t need to follow the crowd because you know that you can forge your own path.
Here’s what Eimantas Balciunas, CEO of a fast-growing online hotel booking startup Travel-Ticker, a company that is changing the face of online booking with cheaper tickets, has to say about creative thinking:
“adapting and thinking differently could be what defines your success at the end of the day.”
Sometimes, we all need to get out of our comfort zones to get the things we want. For some, this can appear scary, as new environments and challenges are really frightening. Yet, mentally strong people see new environments as places to learn and grow. New environments push them to think of out-of-the-box ideas and to find solutions to problems.
This willingness and desire means that they see which concepts or factors need change. That’s why they want to discover new methods to difficult situations.
8. You are willing to learn.
You see learning as a way to improve yourself and surge ahead in a competitive world. While others may see learning as a tedious exercise, you see it as a necessary process for self-development. The truth is that, learning doesn’t have to be from others only – it could also be from your personal experiences.
People with mental strength learn from their mistakes and from the experiences of others. Yes, it is impossible for anyone NOT to make mistakes. But we all have different perceptions of it. It is never ideal to hide or make excuses for one’s errors. It is necessary for you learn from them and use them as pedestals for growth.
9. You can forgive.
You need to forgive yourself and others, too. There is no point in taking life too seriously or expecting perfection from yourself and others. Being rigid about standards and expectations can hurt you in the long-term.
Mentally strong people know that people, including them, will always mistakes. Yet there is NO reason to take the world around them so seriously. By being forgiving, they can allow growth and reason to move them towards their goals, and in the right direction.
10. You are self-aware.
You are aware of your strengths and weaknesses. You can assess your emotions by asking yourself the right questions and seeking better answers. You know what you can tolerate and what you cannot. Knowing yourself, being clear about who you are and what you expect, can help you remain calm in times of crisis.
Being self-aware can bring good results as you are at peace with yourself and can retain a clear mind in most times. There will be tense situations in life, but you can deal with such crisis. It is always easier to handle challenges when you are self-aware. You know your triggers and can use such information to find ways to be calm.
Many consider mental strength as a trait that they have to be born with. In your desire to succeed, you should understand that you do not need to be born with mental toughness. It can be developed over time.
And it starts by understanding these traits and continuously working on them everyday.